My Story

Hi! I’m Cathy, a mother of 4 amazing kids, a daughter, a wife and a child who lost a parent at a young age.

I was an average, happy child growing up with my Mum and Dad when at the age of 4, my Dad was diagnosed with cancer. 

Over the next 2 years, life changed a lot. There were multiple doctors visits, many hospital stays, hours spent colouring on hospital beds. There were middle of the night hospital trips with nose bleeds that couldn't be stopped.

That normal family life as we knew it slowly disappeared and my Dad passed away when I was just 6.

Many years ago, children were treated very different and it was much more that they be seen and not heard. It was thought that as I was so young, I didn't really understand what was going on and so, there was not much communication had.

As a mother of 4 myself now, I have watched each of my children at 6 and know just how smart and switched on they are.

I have watched them with my husband and have witnessed just how much they are aware and very tuned in to what is going on around them. I only started to comprehend at a much older age just how much my Dad no longer being around had impacted me.

Don't get me wrong, I consider myself very lucky to be married and have 4 amazing children. But, the impact of losing my Dad so young and more importantly not having anything left from him has been hard.

Even as an adult there have been many occasions where I have wondered what he would have said or thought. 

 

 

For much of my life I have been searching for that something that I felt I was meant to do. That thing that would mean something good had come from my experiences as a child. I have looked at nursing, counselling, volunteering at hospices - just trying to see how I could give back.

A couple of years ago I had the ultimate lightbulb moment and it became crystal clear to me that I was meant to help other children - to make sure that fewer were left without words, wishes or dreams from their parents.

I wanted parents to understand just how important it is to write to your children. Tell them how proud you are of them, tell them how you would feel if it was their Wedding Day and you were sitting next to them. 

Life doesn't always go to plan. Life sometimes deals out things that are unfair or unexpected, but my wish is that no matter how your life unfolds, your children will never have to wonder how you feel, what you want for them or how much you love them.

Don't underestimate just how much comfort a few words could give.

I know I would give anything just to have something from my Dad. I hope that you will be able to sit next to them and read the letters together, but if for some reason you can't just know how much these words will mean.

Cathy 
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Make sure your words are with them, always.